“We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.”
George Bernard Shaw
Remember those days as a kid when you would awake a new day for adventures to behold. The warm sun upon your face, fresh wind in the air, cool creeks, and the endless wonder of the woods. Then as if time-shifted, it was nightfall and time to return home. Those days were full of wonder, excitement, beauty, and joy. Being in play brought energy to your young heart that gave pleasure you remember fondly to this day. Play is an essential part of life no matter your age because it brings us back to our hearts and who we are created to be.
I had lost my desire for play and I needed to find it again. This essential part of my life faded away to new responsibilities of jobs, relationships, injuries to the heart, and even the stigma of being an adult. As I lost this ability to play, I also lost my connection to my heart and soul. There wasn’t restoration or delight being poured back into me, which I yearned for in life’s more challenging times. My well to draw from when my soul’s thirsted for renewal dried in neglect.
During my search for play I learned the most intuitive meaning of play is a concentrated time of deep satisfaction that opens up for a level of restoration. It’s time set aside to bathe in an activity that brings delight and renewal to heart, mind, and soul. Not only restoring but also it brings rest with it. It’s that sweet remembrance of doing something mindful that brings warmth to your innermost being. This is the essence of what play should be for us.
Meaningful play should be planned. For me, play is hiking and entwining in the beauty of creation. Last month, I went on a four-night hike, and there was a wonder, deep gratitude, and joy in experiencing the wilderness alone. The anticipation while studying the maps, getting the gear together, and reading other hike reports was a delight, which caused excitement to surge up in me. Allow time for your heart to look forward to being restored and reflect on previous times of play that brought rest.
Play should be a profoundly captivating event that speaks to your created self. Hiking is my play that brings delight and replenishes my well to draw on later. When my grandfather partook in play, it was in the woodshop basking in sawdust and creating beautiful woodworking pieces. What is yours? What instills joy and restoration for your heart and soul? What do you look forward to doing that could be shared with excitement to others?
When at play, you should feel the sense of time being lost. While hiking, time ebbs away from me just as the wind wanders through the trees. Play should feel disconnected from the outside elements of stress and pressure and summons us into being present with the process of restoration. You planned for this time of invitation to care for yourself and be mindful of the moment. Be wrapped in the experience of being in the beauty of play. Lose yourself in the moment.
Feel the your heart fill with delight
During play, you and I should be purposeful in obtaining restoration, reflection, depth, and rest. Restoration brings our worn and tired pieces refreshment that brings joy back to life. My correlation of restoration is my tired, weary feet being immersed into a cold mountain creek after many miles of hiking. Chill and invigoration of the crisp water release the tension and dirt giving a newness to my feet. Another way of seeing restoration is the first soaking rain in a land dry and depleted from the summer sweltering heat.
One of my more challenging areas to grow in is self-reflection. To look within me and know why I act, who I am and what really matters. It has been scary, insightful, and liberating to know who I am as a man. Play helps develop and mature this skill to have a standard to meet and a goal to obtain. Engage with the reflection of self as part of play to remind you of your worth and merit. Get to know your heart and what brings light to your eyes.
Beauty is intense, deep, profound, rich, and complex that can be found in any corner of our lives. Being in play opens our eyes to see the intricate beauty that unfolds around us every day. Hiking has given me deep gratitude towards the healing process of life. Taking in all the awe and wonder of creation that works together rhythmically. Seeing how the ant moves across the trail, birds soar in the air, and the streams trickle down a mountain. I am deeply grateful to be a part of that rhythm.
We are built for connection
While we play, it isn’t always done alone; it is also yearning for connection with relationships. We invite others to enjoy participation in play to enhance those connections and find joy. Sharing in the play allows you to see another person’s soul light up with the delight of the experience as you see them being restored. This deepens the effects of play and causes warmth and depth in the relationship. Together we can then draw from this time later to bring light and healing when life becomes heavier.
We are made with beauty, strength, and delight. Play is to capture those elements and remind us of what we care for and desire. There is strive in our lives that depletes the inner strength of our soul. We are made for more than what hurts us or casts shadows in our lives. Play invites us to know what is worth fighting for and have the depth to engage. It captivates our heart and soul for a richer and a beautiful strength for our lives.
I challenge you, my brothers, to engage in discovering your form of play. Find the strength that gives you inspiration for the day, courage to face your fears, and joy that brings delight to those turbulent days. Being a man of fortitude involves care of yourself, so you can have the endurance to tend to those closest to you. If you are a father, then rise up and fight to be that man you desire for your children to have in their lives. It doesn’t matter where your kids are; they are worth you being the best father they need you to be. Our children need depth of character, integrity, and courage to face the darkest side of us.
I am strong because I’ve been weak. I am fearless because I’ve been afraid. I am wise because I’ve been foolish.
Unknown
Our world needs men to be protectors, warriors against the heinous enemy, tender caregivers, the highest integrity, lights in the darkest night, and courage to stand up for the meek. For us men to be such examples, we first must face ourselves and have the courage to shed the fear that holds us back. Finding ourselves through meaningful play is one facet we can begin to behave in the way we are created. Your courage to engage in play will be beneficial for you and influential for those lives connected to yours. Go and fight for yourself.